waiting for brotherly love

i know this isn’t unusual, but milo doesn’t really seem to enjoy having a younger brother.

he seemed mildly interested when we brought augie home from the hospital. or at least not openly hostile….

it is really cute that augie clearly adores his big brother, and wants to be involved in whatever he is doing.  unfortunately this sometimes results in a pinch, a push, or a kick.

so it is a rare opportunity to get a picture of them playing together, without an adult referee in the middle to keep augie safe.

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2 Responses to waiting for brotherly love

  1. hakea says:

    Sorry, long reply…

    Little kids just don’t like sharing Mum and Dad. You’ve probably heard the analogy that for older siblings bringing another baby home, is like your husband bringing another wife home. Encourage him to come to you for hugs when he is feeling stressed about little brother.

    Does Milo have a comfort item, a favourite teddy/doll/blanket? They are not just for bedtime. You can encourage him to hug his comfort item when he is feeling stressed about little brother if you are not readily available. If he doesn’t have a comfort item, support him to choose one for himself and keep reinforcing that it is there for him to give him comfort – “where’s your teddy?”.

    A boy I was working with in foster care, who jealously guarded his foster mum against his older brother, chose his spiderman suit as his comfort item. He was four years old at the time, and it worked a treat. Kids are never too old for a comfort item. My eldest son (9 years) still loves his “doll doll”.

    Also, kids on the Autism spectrum can have difficulties getting on with other kids. Our neighbours have a grandson with Aspbergers, he spent a lot of time with his grandparents, and he was absolutely awful to my kids when they were playing together over at their house.

    Does Milo do repetitive play, and play on his own a lot? You can support him in his play with a technique called ‘joint attention’, which is basically you playing with something while you sit beside him. You show him how to play with the toy or whatever you have chosen. He may ignore you, or imitate you, or engage with you. It’s all good, and nothing is forced.

    Maybe the professionals involved in Milo’s support could advise, based on his needs and wants? Hopefully you have access to a good support group. Here we have Autism Spectrum Australia (Aspect), their website has lots of information sheets.

    Best Wishes

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